Setting Boundaries To Avoid BURNOUT

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Welcome to the ten minute MBA. I'm your host, Scott D clary. On the ten minute MBA, I give you tools, tactics, strategies, insights and tips that you can use to start, scale, grow and ten x Your Business. Let's get into it. So today we're gonna be talking about stress, we're gonna be talking about burnout, we're gonna be talking about setting boundaries so that you don't get stressed and burnt out because, let's be honest, if you've ever worked with an entrepreneur, if you tried to build your own company, you know that it's not always a fun right like. Have you ever met a chilled out entrepreneur, somebody who can simultaneously run a startup and have a great personal life, have perfect balance? I haven't, well, at least not an entrepreneur who's doing this for the first time was fresh off the ground. Entrepreneurship is a high stress, all consuming job, and it's not for the faint of heart or those out an iron will.

That's because, for the most part, you are forging a new path with no model to follow. There is no guarantee and the only constant that you can always expect is change. Now, there's no question that this type of work can be highly rewarding, but because it is so involved, it's also incredibly easy to get burnt out. Entrepreneurial burnout is a real thing and it's not pretty. That's why it's so important to set boundaries for yourself, both in your professional and your personal life. I learned a few great lessons that I'm gonna talk about today and, as you know, all the guests that I have on my show, they inspired me to go into topics and we go a little bit deeper. Um, but I had a great interview with the CEO and bestselling author and Melissa Urban. Now Melissa Urban, she was a guest on success story. She is a woman who has truly reinvented herself. After hitting an all time low, after finishing college and recovering from a serious drug addiction, Melissa decided she needed to completely upend her way of life, and she didn't do things by half. She really went all in.

To Quote Melissa, she changed her friend groups, she got a new job, she moved, she changed the music she listened to, the clothes she wore, and then that's when she started getting into health and fitness. Uh to quote her, I decided if I was going to reinvent myself as a healthy person with healthy habits, what would that healthy person with healthy habits do? Talk about inspiring. Amongst many of the pivotal changes in Melissa's life, she started a blog, she began experimenting with healthy eating. This eventually led her to develop the whole thirty program. Now you don't know what this is. It's a very popular program, but it's a thirty day nutritional reset that's helped countless people change their lives for the better. So if you're somebody who is struggling to make a big change in your life, Melissa's story is a great reminder that it's never too late, and I highly recommend you listening to the entire conversation. But let's go back to what I was speaking about at the beginning. In this video I want to talk about boundaries, and Melissa...

...had a lot to share on boundaries, and this is why we're going to take it a step deeper. So burnout hasn't always been recognized as a clinical condition and to my understanding, the term first started to emerge in the seventies when people in healthcare occupations began to experience breakdowns. It was originally called occupational burnout. Now the key symptoms of occupational burnout are emotional exhaustion, depersonalization, so emotional detachment from others, and the lack of personal accomplishment. A person might feel like they're constantly running on empty or like they're just going through the emotions at work. No matter what industry you work in, whether it be caring for the physical and emotional needs of others or working in a leadership position, the crux of burnout comes from reaching the end of your emotional tether. Sound familiar entrepreneurs in the room. Research suggests that entrepreneurs are more prone to burnout than the average worker. This is likely due to the many unique challenges and stresses that come with being an entrepreneur, such as control, long hours...

...uncertainty. Melissa believes it could be due to this thing we call hustle culture, the killer of innovation and well being. To Quote Melissa, I think entrepreneurs are actually some of the worst at setting boundaries at work. It's because of the Entrepreneur Hustle Culture that tells us when you're resting or you're taking a break, or you're taking a day off, there's somebody else working harder than you. This is one of the most insidious things about hustle culture. It tricks us into thinking that we're weak or we're lazy if we're not always grinding away. So why are we prone to burnout? Well, hustle culture isn't the only thing at the heart of our burnout problem, although it's a pretty big one. There are a few other key reasons why entrepreneurs are so prone to burning out. Let's take a look at five of them. First reason, we're perfectionists. Come on, raise your hand. Have you ever redone a project from scratch, even though you spend hours on it to begin with? You procrastinate and put off task for fear of getting them wrong. How...

...often do you cringe at the praise you receive because you know you could have done better? Entrepreneurs are often perfectionists, they value their work that much. Why this word has ever been associated with being a good worker is beyond me. It's seriously debilitating, and the constant stream of underlying stress leads us down a path of burnout. The second reason is that our work is never done. There's always more to be done. As an entrepreneur, you're constantly juggling a million things at once and it never ends. The sense of never being done can be really overwhelming and cause us to feel like we're constantly behind. To Quote Melissa, it can make you feel like you have to say yes to every person, take every call except every job, go the extra mile, even when it's completely unreasonable, and when we inevitably burn the candle at both ends until the flame meets in the middle. Were burned out right to the core. Third reason why we're burnt out we're surrounded by competition. It's...

...no secret that the entrepreneurial world is competitive. It's probably why you got into it in the first place. We're constantly comparing ourselves to others, and we love this. We want to win all the time, but this can lead the feelings of inadequacy or insecurity. This sort of thing. It can easily be harmful and cause us to overwork ourselves in an attempt to keep up. Melissa had a great point. You can get so caught up in your competition and what they're doing and where they're going that it can completely derail you off your own path because there's three more people in the wings waiting to take that client or waiting to take your audience or take that job. A bit of healthy competition is one thing, but when it becomes all consuming, it's definitely not good for your well being and it's definitely not good for your business. The fourth reason is we're juggling too much at once. Who decided that multitasking and working ourselves to the bone was going to be the way that we win at business? It was going to be the new normal? It's seems honestly...

...backwards, and yet here we are as a society, trying to do it all. Everything that we do. Like you have to understand well, everyone takes on too much from time to time. Entrepreneurs in particular struggle with this. So the issue is that you always want to take on the next thing, follow the shiny object. Another issue is that parents who are entrepreneurs struggle with this in particular. So this is prevalent with women, especially mothers, who are part of the entrepreneur culture. They have to show about work, but then they have to manage household take care of kids, and there is no there is no guidelines for what you should focus on or what you should put more time and attention into so Melissa went through. The fact that they can't win either way. They focus on their kids, they feel like they're not fulfilling their career. They focus on their career, they feel like they're not taking care of their kids. They're neglecting their kids. There's a lot of pressure out there to kill it at everything and to be exceptional at everything.

Now, when society tells us that we have to be perfect at everything, it's no wonder we're also burned out. And the fifth reason why entrepreneurs get burnt out is that nobody taught us any different. Entrepreneurs often where they're burned out like a badge of honor. We think it means we're working hard and being productive, but in reality it just means we're overworked and exhausted, and unfortunately this is the way things have always been done. No one ever taught us another way. To Quote Melissa, we're not taught how to set boundaries. Were not taught at school, we're not taught at college. It's not part of any workplace curriculum and very often we weren't model boundaries at home by our own families. So it's really hard to learn how to set them up, and I'm really glad Melissa brought this up. There is an immense power in the education systems that raise us and the institutions that we work in. Sadly, in the case of setting boundaries, these systems have failed us. So we know some of the reasons why we're burnt out. The time...

...for changing these habits and these reasons is now. We may be prone to burnout, but there's no rule it says we can't change. Just as Melissa changed her entire life and did a full one eight on her nutrition habits, we can change how we approach work and entrepreneurship. So what's the secret recipe? Well, according to Melissa, we need to be able to recognize the signs of burnout first and foremost. That way we can pull up barriers as they're needed instead of letting them snowball into a full blown crisis. To Quote Melissa, I think learning to recognize the signs of burnout early is incredibly important. It's the dreading going into the office when you used to love it. It's the feeling like work is sucking so much of your time and energy that you can't show up for your partner or fun things. Outside of life. It's the physical aspects of being exhausted all the time. According to a study published by the F I I B Business Review a few years ago, the signs and symptoms of burnout are spread across a few different spectrums. So psychological problems and symptoms, of course. First, the psychological symptoms of burnout.

This is when we feel like work is no longer a source of joy or satisfaction. We may feel cynical or negative about our careers. We might start to doubt our abilities. Sadly, among this group of symptoms lies depression and anxiety. So if you're feeling particularly low or strung out, it's definitely time to take a step back and assess the situation now. After that, we have physiological symptoms. So the physical symptoms of burnout are pretty self explanatory. We feel tired all the time, we have no energy. We might even experience headaches or chest pain. Some studies have even observed flu like symptoms and burnout victims, along with more alarming conditions like hypertension, diabetes, skeletal problems even heart disease. After that, we have behavioral symptoms. So if you're suddenly struggling to show up for people who rely on you, or you're considering abandoning your post altogether. At the big sign, you might be experiencing burnout. You may also find that your workaholic tendencies have gotten worse. Addictive behaviors...

...might emerge or re emerge suddenly, fast food is irresistible and the couch calls your name every five minutes. You might also find that your productivity has decreased. Is usually a sign that you're working too hard and not taking enough time for yourself. So how can we set boundaries? Now that we know the signs of burnout? What can we do to set boundaries? Melissa hit the nail on the head, in my opinion. Quote Melissa, I think the concept of paying yourself first is one that entrepreneurs need to learn to embrace if your goal is to grow your business and give back to your team, your community your customers. You can't do that if you're pouring from an empty cup. And she's spot on. A start of venture requires everything you can give it in terms of time, effort and attention. That's why it's so important to set boundaries for ourselves so that we can ensure that we always have something left to pour from our cup. Here are a few tips to get you started. Number one, schedule your time. If you don't schedule your time, someone else will. This is a actually true for entrepreneurs, who tend...

...to be go getters and workaholics by nature. We often have this idea that if we're not working, we're not doing anything productive, but that's simply not the case. In fact, if we don't take some time for ourselves, we're actually doing more harm than good. So start scheduling your day and allotting specific blocks of time for work and for yourself. Second thing, set boundaries for and with your clients. So this one is especially tough, but it's so important. If you're feeling overwhelmed with work, set some boundaries with your clients. Explain that you have a certain number of hours per day or week that you can commit to their project, and anything beyond that will incur additional fees. If you don't protect your time, no one will. Step three, take regular breaks. This one is a no brainer, but it's so important that I need to mention it again. If you don't take regular breaks, you will quickly find yourself burnt out. Get up, move around every hour or so make sure that you take a full day off at least once a week. Number four, say no to new opportunities. When you're feeling...

...overwhelmed and stressed, the last thing you want to do is say no to new opportunities, but trust me, it's necessary. If something doesn't fit into your current schedule or if it requires too much of your time and effort, say no. And number five, set rules for yourself and stick to them. I'm an entrepreneur. Rules don't apply to me wrong. Rules apply to everyone, and in order to protect your well being, we need to set some boundaries for ourselves and stick to them. So what are your rules? Maybe you decide that you won't work past seven PM on weekdays or that you'll take Saturday's off completely. It's up to you, but make sure you enforce them. At the end of the day, it's up to us to protect our well being. By setting boundaries, we can ensure that we don't fall victim to burnout and that we're always able to give our best selves to our business. If you feel like this article spoke to you, and if you feel like you're personally attacked by this article, I highly doubt your on your own burnout is a deadly concoction of our own making. We often forget to take care of the number one thing ourselves. The guilt we feel as entrepreneurs...

...for not work is real, but it's important to remember that we can't pour from an empty cup. So please take a step back, assess your current state and make the necessary changes to ensure that you're taking care of yourself. Only then can you truly give your all to your business. Now, don't forget to check on my interview with Melissa Urban, especially if you're feeling down in the dumps about your diet or your energy levels. She is one of the most insightful people I've met when it comes to diet and lifestyle choices. Of course, go check out the interview for a whole bunch of other entrepreneurial burnout, health and well being tips. Um If you enjoyed this, if you're listening to this, please share it with somebody who'd find it useful. If you're watching this on Youtube, hit like, hit subscribe. Leave a comment below with any other topics you want me to get into. Eventually I'll go through all of them. Have a great week.

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