How to Be More RESILIENT

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Guest Teacher: Amberly Lago @AmberlyLago 

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Welcome to the ten minute MBA. I'm your host, Scott Dclary. On the ten minute Mba I give you tools, tactic, strategies, insights that you can use to start, scale, grow or x Your Business. Today I'm going to be handing you over to Amberley Lago. She is going to speak about mindset resilience. I know you're probably thinking, Scott, I want to learn something that can help me blow out my instagram or help me close the next deal, but I really do believe that mindset is a major key in the road to being successful at building a business, starting your own thing, getting that career advancement, that raise, whatever it is. Resilience is huge. I don't love going all in on mindset content because there's a lot of tactical stuff they need to do too, but there is something to be said for being able to be resilient and Amberley is the most resilient person I've ever met. She almost lost everything when she got into a major accident. She had to basically relearn how to do most things, most physical things,...

...through mindset through, of course, physical rehabilitation. She has an incredible story and you should go check out amberil ago and she speaks globally at telling her story and basically inspiring people with the stuff that she has had to overcome throughout her career. But today we got her for ten minutes and she's going to talk to you about resilience, something I think everyone could use a little bit more of, something that she lives every single day and continues to live. I hope you enjoy well. I think that, especially with everything going on right now and here in California, we've got our mask mandate back and times are uncertain and just figuring out being an entrepreneur is like. Our work hours are different, things are always changing. We usually have several different hats that we wear for a few different businesses or more, and so I think that it's so important to work on our resilience and that's something that we can do every single day and it's something that we can do in a moment where we...

...feel tired or we feel anxiety or we're starting to feel like we're going to hit a wall. And so for me, I have something called Pacer and it stands for perspective, acceptance, community, endurance and rest, and we talked a little bit, touched on that a little bit throughout the conversation. But perspective, I think, is really the quickest and easiest way to change the way you feel about your situation, and I think that that can be in any way, whether it's your financial situation, whether it's you're getting caught up on comparing yourself to someone else on social media or how much success they have versus that what you have, or or if you're anxious about something, a big event that you have coming out up. I think it's important to get grateful and when you're ingratitude, it's alchemy. It changes what you don't have into what you do have and what you can't do into what you can do. And just last night, I will share with you, we went...

...out on a date for our anniversary and it's the first time I've tried to put heels on now. My ankles fused and and my foots deformed, but I managed to put this little heel on. It's only about that big, but I was like, I want to feel like, Oh sexy for our anniversary and we get home and US I fell getting out of the car, by the way, just to say, but I wore the heels and I tried my best to walk the right way. Okay, listen, there's people that I haven't had accidents that fall getting out of the car wearing He'ele at heels. So we're good. My husband just like he just shook his head. He was like, Oh Gosh, why didn't you just wear your boots, you know, but I'm like, I'm doing it, and it's these little small accomplishments that we do, even if we don't do them well, that they start to build our confidence and make us feel good. But when we got home, I sat in the middle of the bathroom floor and I was taken the strap that looked like more of a tourniquet around my swollen ankle...

...and I'm like, Oh my God, and I just was looking at my leg. Kind of been discussed and he goes, when I look at your leg, I say, Oh my God, what a miracle. It's a miracle you have your leg, and that shifted my perspective, like yeah, it is a miracle. I went from discussed to gratitude real quick. And sometimes I think that if we have a hard time shifting our perspective, it's important to surround ourselves with people that can help us do that and in order to have resilience or any kind of transformation. Leads me to the next part of Pacer, which is acceptance, and that's sometimes easier said been done. For me it was really hard. I was using in denial about being diagnosed with a nerve disease. I had to accept that I could no longer run the way that I used to. I can run to chase after my daughter...

...and I did just beat her in a contest running from a stop sign to the car. She's always competing with me and my husband's like you had a little lone lady beat you to the car and I'm like that's right, and so I still can run. It's not always pretty, but I can do it. But acceptance, I felt like. It felt like defeat and I had to shift my perspective on that. Ex eptance is really your it's freedom. It gives you the choice to take action steps to make your life the best that it can be. And when we are an acceptance and we're authentic with our feelings and what we're going through, Oh my goodness, that's when we can start to have the life that we've always imagined. And that's what really change things for me, and it led me to a community of people on Instagram, in my sobriety community, you know, in my life, and I think communities, you know, the next part of Pacer and I think it might be the most important part of Pacer, because when we have...

...community, it's powerful. And sorry, if you can hear the gardener you just got here. No, I can't. Okay, you're good. That's the life of being in covid right I go or hey, ye office. But community is so powerful. I felt so alone when I was going through some of the darkest moments of my life and I can guarantee you that if you're feeling alone right now and you're listening to this and you're feeling like, well, nobody understands what I'm going through, nobody's going to get me, I don't know where to turn, I guarantee you there is somebody, more than one person, that's going through exactly what you're going through and so reach out. Reach out to someone, and you know what, that doesn't even have to be somebody that you know. I connected to a community of crps warriors. When I started looking at the hashtags the RPS Warrior, I wanted...

...to be connected with people that were had passion and drive, and so I think it's really important to take a look at the people that you surround yourself with, and that doesn't just go for the people that are in your family, in your life. I thought, we can't get rid of family members, but we can limit the time that we spend with them if they're bringing us down or they're not believe, they don't believe in our vision or our dreams, and and that's okay. People won't always believe in your vision or your dreams. It's important that you do and that you find people to connect with the air passionate, and that's goes for social media, to if somebody that you're following brings you down, follow them, follow people who are paving the way, who inspire you and because it takes a lot of endurance, and that's the next part of Pacer. Endurance, I think, is when our grit and our passion come into play. It's where, you know, we're not always going to be motivated, but if we look at why we're...

...doing something, we focus on our why, I then, like I said before, it gets us through almost anyhow. But I think that we have to in order to have endurance. I think it's important to set set up really healthy habits and not rely on motivation or will power, because, let me tell you, that will power is out the door if we are overtired, if we haven't eaten, if we haven't taken care of our health. So set up those healthy habits and that's why I think I've been able to get through covid and a pretty graceful way, because I have set up healthy habits. Not to say it's been easy, but because I have this strong foundation of habits, of nonnegotiables in my life that I do. I've I know that I have that foundation to tap into my inner source of resilience, and which leads me to the last part that I'm horrible at. I Oh,...

I'm going to rephrase that. I'm getting better at it. It's rests, and I all I would when I was explaining what I do every day to be more resilient to my husband, I said, honey, I've got a quick word that's going to help me get through every day if I just remind myself of these things. And I'm explaining it to him and he's like, I get to the word our rest and he's like, you are so full of Shit can I cuss on here? And I don't usually cuss, but he does, and I was like, what do you mean? He goes, you don't rest. He goes. Yeah, you do all that other stuff, but you don't rest. And it was really a wake up call and I had to learn the hard way of being hospitalized after going septic from not looking at what was going on in my body and pushing and pushing, and I was good at the grip. But I think it's so important to be resilient. We have to strategically stop sometimes and plan times to rest and recover, and however that may look like. That that might be taking...

...a break after zooms and going out in nature, taking your shoes off, walking through the grass and getting grounded, taking time to play, you know, scheduling out times where you do have some time off to be create. Like, if we don't rest, it's hard to spark creativity. When I'm rested and I can get out there and do some of the things that I love, and I mean I love my work, but how I can keep moving forward with my work is if I do things to take care of myself, if I do set an alarm on my phone for okay, it's time to shut off the devices and go to bed. The emails will wait till tomorrow. The text messages will wait till tomorrow. The social media is done for the day and I think, as an entrepreneur, with our hours just being all over the place, that it's really important to schedule out those terms to rest. All right, that's it for today. I hope you enjoyed again another masterclass in mindset and resilient something that I really think that you should just pause and take the thought, take a second to appreciate if you're going...

...to be building anything. Yeah, it's important to take action, but what drives action? It's not motivation. For a lot of us, it is the mindset that keeps us going long term, that gratitude, that resilience, that tenacity, that perseverance that will take us places long after the motivation has died off. And I really, really hope that anybody who's listening to this who wants to excel in a business sense understands the importance of mindset in maintaining that energy long term. Anyways, remember any business questions you got, don't worry, I got you. I'll try and do something. Maybe a little bit more tactical tomorrow night, but I hope you enjoyed this. Has Been another ten minute MBA. Have a great night. I'll see you tomorrow.

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